Reading Dale Carnegie’s all-time classic book, ‘How khổng lồ Win Friends and Influence People,’ is like reading that one book that gives all you need lớn succeed in life; it honestly changed my life.

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It remains the only book I’ve read for non-retìm kiếm purposes that I made detailed notes on. For years, I talked about this book in glowing terms lớn my friends & siblings and even read from the notes I made regularly. I read it first about ten years ago, và I read it every two years since then. But now I find it better to reread it every year.


Human Relationships

The book presents Carnegie’s advice on relationships, and it is even more relevant in this age where many of us communicate more by text and social truyền thông media than we vày face khổng lồ face. This was the first book that opened up the human psybít khổng lồ many people & gave us a key to underst& both ourselves và those around us. I soaked up the advice in the book and, still, today, apply it every chance I get. It has been good all the way.

There have been times when I certainly have not followed this advice &, naturally, things went wrong between myself and others. I can honestly say that where I have applied Carnegie principles, things have turned out very well in my relationship with people. When you read this book, something will change in your mindmix. At the very least, you will understand and become more aware of your interpersonal skills và work with people every day. Even though some people still find it difficult lớn apply all his rules, a little thought và effort are all you need.

This book has been around for many years (85 years, lớn be exact). This book is great for both personal and professional communication. It is filled with well-grounded, basic, & interesting advice for building great relationships in your life & your business.

The Principles

The book outlines principles (30 in total) for becoming a friendlier person. They are:

Don’t criticise, condemn or complain. When you come from a place of positive sầu solutions and understanding, it does wonders for communication;Give sầu honest & sincere appreciation. Be authentic with people, nhái appreciation is insincere và quite transparent, và it can come across as condescending.Arouse an eager want. My interpretation of this is that you generate interest and motivation in others so they do what you want them to lớn vì.Become genuinely interested in other people – we can’t kém chất lượng genuine any more than we can appreciate. Be mindful & present when people are talking khổng lồ you;Smile. It’s contagious and always welcome.

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Rethành viên a person’s name is the most important thing . So always remember people’s names và use it. We all hate it when people address us by the wrong name.Be a good listener – Encourage others khổng lồ talk about themselves. Active sầu listening is one of the hallmarks of good communication.Talk in terms of the other person’s interests. Think about common grounds and comtháng things when you are with another person & talk about those things. That is what makes for interesting conversation.Make the other person feel important, & to lớn vì it sincerely, you need to lớn actually believe that they are important. Talk about the value this person brings, it’ll make them feel great, và they will want to lớn come baông chồng for more.

But these were not the only principles in the book. In total there are 30 principles, grouped inlớn 4 parts. Part One is about the Fundamental Techniques in Handling People. In this part, there are three principles. Part Two is Three ways lớn make people lượt thích you. Here there are 6 principles. Part Three deals with How to Win People to Your Way of Thinking. In this part, the author discusses 12 principles. Part Four is on Be a Leader: How to Change People Without Giving Offense or Arousing Resentment. Here, Carnegie discusses 9 principles that will help us achieve sầu this.

This book ‘How lớn Win Friends và Influence People’ teaches us about the best strategies lớn use in having a great relationship with people around. Though there have been other written materials that teach about pleasant relationships; Carnegie says that his method is way better và will help us to lớn get whatever we want at trang chính & in the office. There’s a kind of simplicity in Carnegie’s ideas, even though it may be ironic. In life, these are obvious habits but extremely hard to practice. Reading contemplative sầu books lượt thích Carnegie’s is an opportunity khổng lồ think about our self-centered nature và improve the chất lượng of our interactions with other people.

Though the book has many great points, there are still some cons in the book. Its major failing shows itself in the clalặng that the biggest problem human beings face on earth is getting along with and influencing other people. This might seem like an innocent piece of salesmanship, but it is not. The pursuit of popularity can be a dangerous, ephemeral, and corrupting affair. By elevating its import, readers may be misled, and the book may create a moral ranking that subverts the rightful order of things.

Whereas Aristotle, the great philosopher, teaches us that virtue should be practiced for its own sake, Dale Carnegie’s book instructs us lớn take an interest in people, in order to lớn be able to engage better with them. He says we should be genuine because that way lies the route lớn popularity và friendship, also to lớn empathize with people so that we may be able khổng lồ influence them.

I recommkết thúc this book khổng lồ anyone who wants to have a commonsense, realistic, practical, natural understanding of how human beings vì chưng things & live sầu their lives. To add lớn this, it is full of decency & kindness plus mutual respect và understanding of your fellow human being. This book teaches you how lớn be a nice person and khổng lồ treat others much the same. The results were, & still are, remarkable. Of course, you are at liberty to lớn decide khổng lồ use the principles or not khổng lồ apply them. You also get lớn decide when and where khổng lồ use them and with whom lớn apply the principles.